If your heart is asking how to stop feeling invisible, the first thing you need to acknowledge is that this so-called invisibility originates from within. Sure, the feeling likely stems from the old messages of your childhood, but the reason it perpetuates is simply a replaying of those long-ago feelings that still reside within your mind. That which has dampened your spirit. The good news is that if you want to learn how to stop feeling invisible, you are indeed in charge of your own journey of feeling fully received.
A quick look around this website will tell you that I’m speaking of the law of attraction here, for there is no other way of drawing that which we most desire, than to presence from within, the very thing we wish to see without. While it may feel a convincing argument that others don’t see you and that there is something inherently wrong with either your personality, or the world that surrounds you, there in fact is no argument to substantiate this belief you have come to hold.
Know that you are created equal to all, you are neither less nor more than all living creation. The fact that you experience a feeling of not being seen serves as a point of contact, a prompt leading you to discovering your greatest self. Understanding how to stop feeling invisible is all about acceptance and the pursuit to presence yourself fully. For it stands to reason that, at the deepest level, there is not a living soul who can fully acknowledge your true self more than you, at least until you have done so first. Whether you are aware of your finest qualities and your infinite potential or not, somewhere inside you are not wholly embracing your innermost value.
I know this to be true because the recurring issue of not feeling seen, noticed, appreciated, is always the first clue. That which we project onto others, reveals that which we in truth feel about ourselves, and that which we internally believe to be true. This acknowledgment is your first step to acceptance. Once you awaken to this understanding, you will be on the path to giving yourself exactly the kind of presence you wish to receive from others. How do I know this? Invisibility has also been part of my own journey my friend. I understand.
I cannot tell you your special qualities or what you have to offer the world, but you can. Feeling short on your offerings? It’s time to assess exactly what makes you, you, what makes your qualities valuable, your heart a treasure. If you cannot readily see or feel the gifts that are unique to you, then it’s time to tap into your heart and find them. Ask yourself what really matters to you, what you feel you really need, then switch gears and set your sights on offering those very things to others. There is no better way to discover your greatest self than to give the very things you seek to have.
Until you give this quality of presence both to yourself and to the world around you, until you let go of the idea that there is some sort of concrete reason why others should overlook your inner goodness, you will forever chase the idea that the problem exists outside yourself. Look no further than your own belief systems, your own false view of who you are, for therein lies the problem. When you come to fully accept this, you will take the first step on the pathway to visibility, for you will finally begin to see yourself.
How to Stop Feeling Invisible
Creating Magnetism from Within
Magnetism does not have to do with looks, age, education, intelligence, or a better personality. It has everything to do with self-love and courting the person within. True that some people are blessed with external beauty and are ushered into a world that rewards beauty, the opposite is also true. Some people never manage to love themselves even when they are aesthetically blessed while others shine from within. Not every gorgeous person reflects inner magnetism.
We each walk the earth with a sort of price tag attached to ourselves. The value we set, the price we apply, is in direct correlation with how we feel about ourselves, and it wholly determines whether we attract big spenders or those looking for bargain basement deals. It is no surprise that we feel easily overlooked and shaky on our boundaries when we attract the bargain hunters, for truly we are setting our self-value too low. When we declare ourselves worthy, alongside the best of the best, we naturally attract those in correspondence with our highest selves.
What determines the best of the best? Simply speaking, those who come to love themselves enough to take space in this life, in this world, allowing themselves to be, and experience the best. Those who count themselves in and give themselves that which they desire. As much as it may seem to be about taking what one wants, it is rather about allowing oneself to receive that which is available to all. A powerful way to open the path to receiving is to be and give the very things we wish to receive.
But how does one become magnetic? It is about tapping into your essence, your passionate self, your aliveness. Being fully present and unapologetically you, radiates magnetism. If you would like some inspiration on how to become more magnetic, how to captivate the hearts of others, here is an illustrative video by Joseph Rodrigues where he speaks about the power to instantly transform your reality by consciously choosing your state of being. In maintaining your chosen state, you immediately affect that which is mirrored back to you.
Joseph Rodrigues has a wealth of videos on the law of attraction and creating flow in one’s life. I have chosen this video as I feel it aligns well with the topic of how to stop feeling invisible. He gives an inspiring example of how Marilyn Monroe easily switched on this magnetized state of being that instantly attracted attention. While, no doubt, she was a woman of exceptional external beauty, she understood that the allure was very much about turning on an inner light.
Although her short time here on earth did not amount to a great deal of inner satisfaction or a healthy allowance of self-love, she did discover the power of charisma and attraction. That she invented for herself. I am not promoting the idea of creating a persona that is not an extension of the true self. Here, I am referring to enlivening that which is charismatic from within.
Fabrication of charisma may garner much attention, but it does not answer the question of how to stop feeling invisible. Why? Feeling unseen has everything to do with the spirit, that deeper place within which longs for real connection not simply adoration. True charisma encompasses the whole and reaches far beyond any kind of performance one can give. It is about being fully present, expressing oneself in ways that align with the highest self, and sustaining an elevated state of being by conscious choice.
Even if you have not yet found your true self, I believe you understand this, if only by the absence of its manifestation. In that I mean, most of us run our internal states as part of a weather system, blowing like tumbleweeds whenever the environment gets too rough. One moment we are feeling good, in our element, the next we are plummeting, abandoning our most precious selves.
Raising one’s state requires conscious effort as does maintaining the level of that state, however, once you begin on this journey, you will wonder how it was you were not doing this before. For it is the choice between joyful aliveness and suffering. It is the difference between being fully present in a state of love and suppressing the lifeblood of your blessed existence. You are here, now, and every moment is an invitation to raise your energy, to express yourself in ways that warm your heart. It is in your nature to be fully connected to your innermost self and to the world around you.
This state of invisibility is nothing more than a mirroring of what is happening internally, for we all experience this reflection of that which is happening within. Somewhere inside we are dulled. This calls to mind a couple of experiences I had many years ago. I was part of a sharing circle where, each week, a group of us shared our innermost thoughts, feelings, experiences. At the time, I was contemplating public speaking, specifically in the arena of motivational speaking. Me. Invisible me.
Keep in mind that I have always been shy. However, my dream from the age of seven was to be a performer. Acting, singing, dancing was my biggest dream. Over many years I tried again-and-again to take classes, audition for plays, sing etc. Each time I found I had no voice. I just couldn’t seem to allow my voice out. One day, while I was in my sharing circle, I expressed my desire to pursue public speaking. I didn’t know how I could do it, but I had the desire.
This fellow in the circle turned to me and said, “you? You want to be a motivational speaker?” Picture his tone with the harshness of its intent. He looked at me in a mocking manner as if to laugh at the idea. Although it felt like a hurtful thing to say, I immediately recognized something in him. It was clear to me that he was a mirror of myself. He suppressed his full expression, he was flat, he was without life. I had never seen him exhibit liveliness or take risks. He was the amplification of me, the mirroring of my greatest fear. He reflected my fear that I was not good enough, that I had something missing within me. Something that set me apart as someone who was incapable of the task.
I could have looked at it as confirmation of my deepest doubts, but I didn’t. I saw it for what it was. His internal ugliness was rising, and he was giving me a taste of my own ugly feelings about myself. In truth, not one of us can predict or know the capabilities of another. We can only mirror what we believe we see. I didn’t go on to become a public speaker, but I found the courage to take improv classes, Toastmasters, and stand-up comedy classes. I even managed to get up at an open mic event. Did I conquer this fear? No, but I made steps toward my true expression.
Only I can determine my capabilities, and the same applies to you. It starts with allowing yourself small expressions that continually speak to your heart, by entertaining the idea that you can take small risks and move toward your dreams. Allowing yourself to be yourself, unapologetically, will turn at least one head; yours. That is the place to begin, for once you stand up and take notice of yourself, others will too. This is how to stop feeling invisible.
The other story relates to finding our energetic match, that which speaks to us and that which becomes suppressed. In my twenties I began my business designing jewelry. The first place I ever sold my work was down by Toronto’s waterfront. One day a mother came by with her toddler. He couldn’t have been more than three years old. Well, the little boy became fascinated with a necklace I had which had an emerald-colored stone. It was rather flashy, and I could tell that he was smitten.
An ache came to my heart when I heard his mother explain to him that this necklace was for girls. I didn’t have children of my own at the time, but I remember feeling like I wanted to pull her aside and ask her not to squash her little boy’s dreams. We cannot help but like what we like, at least until someone comes along and tells us that we are wrong to allow our hearts to open naturally. As though there is some sort of standard to follow when it comes to its calling.
While this little example illustrates how one can interfere with another’s natural longing, it is also illustrative of all the ways in which we receive messages as children. Repeated negative messaging in the form of dissuading the spirit within, leads to lifelong struggles with personal authenticity. Some even contributing to denial of sexual orientation or gender identification, even in our modern world.
Although I give a minor example in my accounting of this little boy, in more severe cases, the chronic dismantling of the true self is what can lead to self-denial. We all know that self-denial has led many a gay man to marry a woman and start a family. Whether it is a straight man who denies his passion to dance ballet, or the woman who was never encouraged to pursue hockey, it is the interruption of natural longing, innate desire. By some idea of “normal” that is imposed upon since childhood, we can grow up dimming our light, denying our truth, and eventually drifting into invisibility.
Had this mother with the little boy simply said, “isn’t that pretty?” and let him enjoy the moment, he could be free to express his true self in simple ways such as being drawn to pretty necklace, no explanations necessary. I can only hope it was her biggest mistake as I hate to think his natural responses were continually choked.
This little boy would be a grown man now and likely he doesn’t remember his mother told him he shouldn’t love that sparkling emerald necklace. There is no telling, however, how many times he was steered away from natural responses, from the callings of his heart. I had only a glimpse of a moment in his life, but it has stayed with me.
It is never too late to allow yourself to explore the things you have denied yourself up until this point. Allowing yourself all your heart desires is a vital step in how to stop feeling invisible.
You found this website because you asked the question how to stop feeling invisible, not because you are that, but because you feel it. Change the feeling and you change the story. You need look no further than inside your own heart and mind, for there you will find that invisibility is fed through self-abandonment. Feed your soul and you will make yourself more visible each day, for you are not missing one thing, besides that which you have not yet allowed yourself to experience: the full expression of you.
If you would like to explore another video, pertaining to personal magnetism, by Joseph Rodrigues, the following is also in line with this topic of how to stop feeling invisible: Magic of personal magnetism... (William Walker Atkinson)
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